As a survivor of domestic violence it is important to think about
safety in your home, in your car, in public, and on the job. Take a few
minutes to read over the following and think about the options you have if
confronted with a dangerous situation.
1. ______ If I decide to leave, I have a quick way out of the house.
2.______ I can keep my identification ( driver's license, social
security card, birth certificate, insurance cards, order of protection,
divorce papers) and car keys ready and place these items in a safe place
so I can leave quickly. (Make copies of keys to hide.)
3.______ I am able to tell my neighbors, landlord, family, and close
friends about the violence and I can ask that they call the police
immediately if they hear suspicious noises coming from my house.
4.______ I have selected a code word that I have shared with my
children, family, friends and neighbors. If they hear me speak this word,
they know to immediately call the police for help because they will know
that I feel I am in danger.
5.______ I have taught my children how to use the telephone to contact
the police and fire department.
6.______ If an argument erupts, I know to try to move to a place in my
house that is open and away from items that could be used as weapons (i.e.
kitchen and bathroom). I will try to avoid arguments that trap me in
spaces without access to an outside door.
7.______ If I decide to leave my home, I will have a place to go.
If you are thinking about leaving a violent home you need to plan
ahead. Below are a few things you will need if you leave. Remember- Leaving
your batterer is the most dangerous time (BE PREPARED).
1.______ Are you able to leave money, an extra set of keys, copies of
documents, extra medicine, and clothes with a friend or family member so
you can leave quickly? Can you hide extra clothes in your car if you have
to leave during the night?
2______ Can you keep shelter or hotline numbers, spare change or a
calling card with you at all times for emergency phone calls?
- Cash, checkbook, credit cards
- Drivers License
- Social Security Cards
- Birth Certificates (children also)
- School Records
- Keys (copies of house, car, work)
- Lease, house deed, rental agreements, mortgage
- Order of Protection
- Divorce Paper Work
- Address Book
You may want to consider telling people you work with about your
situation so you will have support in case of an emergency. It is important
that you think of ways to be safe from your abuser while you are at work or
out in public.
1._____ Can you inform a supervisor, security personnel, or coworkers
of your current situation? If you feel you are in danger, can you provide
a photograph of your abuser and your Order of Protection to building
2.______ Can a coworker help you screen telephone calls at work?
3. ______ Can you vary your routes to and from your work? Can you
arrange for someone to escort you to the car or bus?
4.______ Can you change your daily routine so your abuser will not be
able to track you?
5.______ Do you keep a copy of your Order of Protection at all times?
6.______ Have you developed a safety plan?
Remember if you are out of your home and you feel you are in danger
you need to get to a public place as soon as possible. Once there try to
draw as much attention as possible. Make sure you are not a willing victim.
Make it difficult for your abuser to gain control.